As Hari Raya is fast approaching, many of us just can’t wait to start our long break and celebrate it with our loved ones. I for one can’t wait to be with my family, meet my relatives, eat good food, take nice photos and do many fun things on Hari Raya. I didn’t celebrate much last year as I was up to my nose with assignments, therefore I plan to have a really good time this year, even if I still have to do assignments :-p
As I trampled on several blogs, however, I found out that there are people who dread the arrival of Hari Raya. Why is that so? Isn’t it a day of joy? After a month of being refrained from eating and drinking all day, why would anyone not be happy that the restriction finally ends?
Allow me to share with you some observations on why the prospect meeting relatives and old friends on Hari Raya can be more dreadful than joyful:
(1) Because married women who have yet to be blessed with children will be bombarded with:
- Bila nak ada baby?
- Planning ke?
- Si dia tu baru sebulan kawin dah berisi, awak dah bertahun kawin tak berisi lagi?
- Dah cuba jumpa doktor A, bidan B, bomoh C?
- Dah cuba makan pil X, herba Y, jamu Z?
(2) Because unmarried women who have yet to find Mr. Right will be bombarded with:
- Bila nak kawin?
- Awak ni yang terlalu memilih sangat.
- Nak hidup sorang sampai ke tua?
- Awak ni pandai / bergaya / berjaya sangat, orang takut nak dekat.
- Nak makcik tolong carikan?
(3) Because someone who just lost a loved one will be bombarded with:
- Mesti sedih kan mak / ayah / datuk / nenek dah tak ada raya ni?
- Tak ingat kat dia?
- Dah pergi kubur dia?
- Kalaulah dia ada lagi.. bla bla bla..
- Tak buat tahlil ke?
To say that these comments are irritating is an understatement.
How I wish for these people stop being nosy and start respecting other people’s privacy. Do they find happiness from making others feeling miserable? Perhaps they mean well, but I truly believe that someone has to tell them the difference between being “a caring soul” and “an annoying witch’’.
We don’t dread Hari Raya. We just dread meeting people who live to ruin our Hari Raya.
P.S.: My solution to number (2) - dress to kill, act classy and intimidate those nosy makciks with your elegance and sophistication. Trust me, they have really low self-esteem. The moment they see that you are way out of their league, they will be shy to even look at you!